WE KNOW THAT EVERYTHING IN THIS LIFE THAT IS IMPORTANT IS DONE IN AN ORGANIZED, THOUGHTFUL, PLANNED WAY. USUALLY WE SEEK EDUCATION ABOUT THE TOPIC OR FIELD, LEARN FROM QUALIFIED INDIVIDUALS. ONCE WE FINISH THE LEARNING PROCESS – WHICH INLCUDES TESTING, PRACTICING, WE START TO USE WHAT WE LEARNED. THERE ARE POINTS OF REFERENCE WHERE […]

It is not a coincidence that many people wind up marrying or having long term relationship with people who they met in high school, college, at work, through organizational activities, through church or other religious institutions, through circle of family-friends, etc. What do all of these have in common? The individuals had the time to […]

There are two distinct categories – those elements which we have little or no control over and those that we have some or a lot. Your physical appearance, your financial status, your education and present interests are those aspects of who you are that you can either do very little about, or that will take […]

I thought it might be appropriate to share with fellow Long Islanders some thoughtson Loving Unconditionally. This may not sound romantic, but almost 40 years of my life have been dedicated to the philosophical research regarding the role of love in our life. It is an integral part of a theory I developed called The […]

In my lecture series recently this very question was voiced by one of the participants. “I like to dance, so I went to this dance, and the woman I chose couldn’t even dance. Worst of all she wasn’t very interested in growth or personal development.” Do you ever have this type of experience? Meeting somebody […]

Why aren’t you in a fantastic relationship? You could be. Below is an e-mail I got today. It is like many others I get on a regular basis. It is from a good-looking, successful person, divorced, was in and out of many relationships, and was blaming men for the failures. Dear Stefan,I too want to […]

I was talking to group of people at a dinner yesterday and as so often occurs the conversation drifted to our children. These are grown children, with families of their own. And sadly, the discussion about our wonderful children turned to their being divorced, separated. Followed by the not-so-uncommon reference to ‘pardon the expression but […]

This past Tuesday The Human Development Company held a singles workshop at the Huntington Hilton. The seminar focused on how we can create a soul mate. The right person is out there waiting for you. What is required are two main ingredients – 1) knowing exactly what you believe about relationships, the opposite sex, and […]

Recent research The Human Development Company conducted regarding Internet dating has revealed a number of interesting things. Among them is the fact that people describe themselves in very glowing terms – almost universally. We believe that people do perceive themselves correctly. They are honest, funny, adventurous, romantic, generous, loving, down-to-earth, etc., etc. Disappointments and failures […]

Finding Your Soul Mate –How to create the Perfect Relationship Imagine finding someone who you seemed to know forever. Strange how much you think alike, though not always agreeing. This person knows your weaknesses and strengths, and is always nurturing and encouraging. You have the same sense of humor, laugh at yourselves, rather than others. […]